Lessons learnt by stepping away from the business
It’s amazing what you learn when you step away from the business, when you take time off for personal reasons or for whatever reasons it might be, most recently I learnt a whole lot of lessons which for the most part have stretched me in the greatest of ways and has been beneficial for not just me but for the business on so many levels.
When personal shit or even life just gets in the way it’s hard not to let it impact everything, so for me I try to keep some degree of separation between my home and my work life, because if I didn’t it would be like a tornado meeting a tidal wave and the search for Where’s Wally in the aftermath.
Being a single working mum of two children, one being an out of control world hating teenage daughter (apparently this stage of adolescents eventually ends) and the other being my Autistic son is sometimes beyond challenging, but apparently not challenging enough for me as I decided to go to UNI to do a marketing degree as well…with this being said I question my sanity several times a day.
Recently things in my life came to the point of beyond challenging personally, financially and emotionally which then resulted in me not being able to function at work or home, I went into hibernation and for most of the time was unreachable with any form of contact, I didn’t answer my phone or emails and basically avoided any contact with the outside world, and like most things in life this had the domino effect leaving my boss and the business in a situation beyond our control.
There were times I didn’t think we would make it through all the challenges as a business and often questioned whether I even deserved to be there and deserved to be employed by such an incredible person who was so invested in me, who gives me support, encouragement and the occasional kick up the ass to keep me moving in the right direction.
At the time my thoughts and belief around this was that it would be less of an impact on everybody and the business to fail now rather than later.
What came out of these recent experiences and challenges was some of the most valuable lessons that have strengthened and solidified our relationships within the business and has also given us an awareness as to how we can better manage situations around time management so for Ming it became a matter of having to be very selective as to where her time was spent and whether it was beneficial or not especially since my absence had taken the sales cycle from 2 weeks to 8 weeks. Communication was an important lesson for me more so as it’s something I’ve struggled with in the past and have become much more aware now to just how important communication is in all areas of our life. I think the enlightenment around problem solving comes from the pain being so great that we choose either to manage things better so we never repeat that experience again or as Ming would put it stick our head in the sand. The thing is we are all going to go through things in our life that will stretch us beyond our comfort zone so that we can grow, we can either embrace it or resist it, I’ve learnt it’s better to embrace it because the result is a big push forward not just personally but also for the business.
So I can say it’s so good to be back, FYI I’m never allowed to leave again except for scheduled holidays.